5 REASONS WHY YOU HAVEN’T GOT YOUR IDEAL BODY …..and it’s all in your mind!
How would you like to look in the mirror and love the body you see in front of you?
Welcome to the club!
I think it’s fair to say that the vast majority of people would love to achieve this state of being; tied strongly as it is to self-belief, self-acceptance, confidence and a sense of worth.
While it’s very true that the acquisition of such self-aligned values are not, and should not be tied solely to one’s physical appearance; we can’t escape the fact that most of us make a strong connection.
Why on earth do we do this to ourselves? Obviously, we don’t mean or want to. But nevertheless, we find it all too easy to become experts in self-depreciation.
From a coaching perspective, I know that all our bodies are capable of supporting a wonderful level of strength and fitness.
Why is it then, if we all have the capacity to achieve such a fantastic transformation, do too few of us fail to do so?
1: You Don’t Believe You’re Capable:
It’s perfectly natural to be hesitant of change. It’s uncharted territory. Until we’re knee deep into a journey, we may only have a vague notion of the effort it will require.
But, if you think back: how many times have you felt this way, only to prove yourself wrong?
Growth and development require a level of discomfort; both mental and physical. This isn’t a bad thing. It’s just a fact that adaptation mostly occurs after we push ourselves beyond our previous best.
The point is, you never truly know what you’re capable of until you try. The question then becomes: have you got a strong enough reason for not trying?
2: You Don’t Believe You’re Worthy:
This is a far more insidious belief; sadly, very common, as people rationalise that good things only happen to others.
The origins of this belief can require some unravelling, and I genuinely believe that it’s worth putting in the effort to do so.
However, you don’t need to understand exactly why you think this way in order to make a change.
Again, the first step involves challenging this perception. Just try compiling a list of reasons why anyone else would genuinely be more deserving than you. Take feelings out of the equation and think objectively for once.
Being absolutely clear: no-one is more worthy than another of being fit, healthy and happy.
3: You Lack Confidence:
You hear a lot of people suggesting that you only have to act confidently, to make it stick. In other words: fake it ‘til you make it.
Unfortunately, this doesn’t really work. Confidence builds as we compile evidence of our capabilities. This is true in any field.
You wouldn’t start a brand-new job thinking you were going to be amazing on your very first day. You gain confidence in the role as your experience and competency grows.
Similarly, if you’ve never tested your body to see what it’s capable of, then you haven’t given yourself the chance to develop body-confidence.
The more you test your body and your mind; getting stronger, fitter and more capable; the more your confidence grows. It really is cause and effect. And it’s authentic because the results provide your evidence.
4: You Can’t Picture a New You:
Familiarity can be comfortable. That doesn’t always mean it’s good for you.
When you struggle to believe that you deserve a transformation, it can be virtually impossible to imagine how you might look, and how your life might look and feel if you actually succeeded in achieving your goals.
This is quite common. But all you really need is an open mind and the desire to start your journey.
Consider this: struggling to form a picture about what your body or life might look like, doesn’t make it any less achievable.
As a Coach, one of my first priorities is to help my clients see their potential and create a goal, or series of goals, to aim for.
5: You Don’t Know How:
It’s natural when you think of any transformation to not know where to start. Just the word Transformation makes it sound like a complicated process.
Yes, it can be monumental, intense, immersive and life changing.
But the truth is: it doesn’t have to be complicated!
In fact, there is a very simple framework, involving:
Thankfully, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
A skilled Coach can easily guide you through the confusion; bringing clarity, motivation and support; helping you to gain the ability to recognise your potential and build your self-confidence.
Overthinking and doubt are two one of the most prolific forms of self-sabotage. You owe it to yourself to challenge the beliefs that have held you back and allow room for a new, positive way of thinking that supports the future you want.